Your Identity

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Hi, I'm Eimile. I'm married and I'm a grad student in molecular biology.

Hmm. A lot of my getting-to-know you conversations start out like this. I define myself by my relationship and my job.

But there's just seems to be something wrong with that. What if I wasn't married or wasn't in a relationship? What if I didn't have job or wasn't a student? Then how would I define myself?

This is our problem. We define ourselves by the things God has blessed us with rather than our relationship with God himself and our intrinsic value in the eyes of God. And then when we lose our jobs or lose a relationship...suddenly we've lost our identity.

I wonder if that's why so many Christian girls want to get married out of college?  Because its seems like relationship security which in their minds equals identity security.

But even marriage is not true security. We are not promised tomorrow - not us and not our spouses. And while I am so overwhelmingly in love with Jordan, I know in my heart that I cannot define myself primarily by my relationship with him. My relationship with Christ absolutely must be first.